Couples Counseling Online

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Couples Counseling and Relationship solutions to rebuild trust, improve communication, and experience less emotional shutdown and burnout

Who This Is For

Cynthia Djengue, LCSW, LISW is licensed for Couples Counseling in Arizona, Iowa, and Oregon. She provides telehealth counseling and accepts some insurances as well as private pay. If you are interested, deeper work can be done through Depth Held, an therapy wellness intensive specific service.

Beyond Couples Conflict

Couples counseling isn’t just about settling arguments or being told what to do. It’s about exploring the root of every moment of distance or frustration, listening deeply to feelings, and getting attuned to one another. Slowing down, being more intentional. Many clients leave therapy, or leave feeling “we didn’t get to the root of the problem.” And, honestly, some people are turning to AI to experience an easier route, less cost, and less emotional work.

Why your relationship Needs Couples Therapy

1. Communication Breakdowns

  • Frequent misunderstandings or misinterpretations of tone and intent.

  • One partner feels unheard or dismissed, while the other feels overwhelmed or criticized.

  • Conversations escalate quickly into arguments or shut down entirely.

2. Emotional Dysregulation

  • Intense emotional reactions to small triggers.

  • Difficulty calming down after conflict; lingering resentment or anxiety.

  • One partner may withdraw to avoid conflict, while the other pursues for reassurance.

3. Trust and Security Issues

  • Persistent fear of abandonment or rejection.

  • Overdependence on reassurance or, conversely, emotional distancing.

  • Suspicion or jealousy without clear cause.

4. Unequal Emotional Labor

  • One partner feels like the “caretaker” or “parent” in the relationship.

  • Resentment builds because responsibilities (household, emotional, financial) feel imbalanced.

  • ADHD symptoms (forgetfulness, disorganization) amplify stress for both partners.

5. Intimacy Challenges

  • Physical or emotional intimacy feels unsafe or inconsistent.

  • Avoidance of closeness due to fear of being hurt or judged.

  • Sexual connection impacted by anxiety, trauma triggers, or lack of focus.

6. Chronic Stress and Burnout

  • Relationship feels like “walking on eggshells.”

  • Both partners experience fatigue from constant conflict or emotional intensity.

  • Anxiety-driven perfectionism or control clashes with ADHD-driven spontaneity.

7. Patterns from Childhood Trauma

  • Old wounds resurface during disagreements (e.g., feeling “not good enough”).

  • Difficulty trusting or relying on a partner due to past betrayals.

  • Overreacting to perceived criticism because it echoes childhood experiences.

A therapist who specializes in ADHD in couple relationships

I work with couples to uncover how ADHD traits like impulsivity or overwhelm affect one or both partners, how trauma and early attachment patterns play out in daily interactions, how anxiety can lead to fawning, withdrawal, or criticism, and how modern-day working, parenting, care-giving, or ongoing stress can lead to relationship burnout.

Together, we'll untangle the roots of dysfunction so you can reconnect and re-grow more deeply and sustainably.

What to Expect

  • 55-minute telehealth sessions designed for couples exploration

  • $195 per session (superbills for insurance)

  • Available to couples across Arizona, Iowa, and Oregon

  • Trained & Certified in ADHD, Mindfulness, Negotiation, Brainspotting, Grief, Biofeedback, and Coaching

Why Choose The Hummingbird Path LLC

At The Hummingbird Path LLC, therapy is a process of depth, not distraction. I support couples with ADHD, high anxiety (typically due to childhood trauma), relational burnout, and attachment difficulties, who are ready to build better communication patterns, manage ADHD-related challenges as a team, and move beyond the cycle of burnout and resentment.

  • Experienced therapist who specializes in attachment, ADHD, childhood and inner child wounds (“parts work”), family dynamic issues, high anxiety, and grief

  • A calmer, softer space for both voices to be heard – no blame, no pressure, no raised voices or interrupting

  • Collaborative goal setting, intentional and mindful practices, referring back to goals and behavior change

Discover the Deep Roots

  • Discover the underlying causes of recurring tension and patterned behavior by noticing the conflicts that keep resurfacing.

  • Learn to co-regulate, attune, and reconnect emotionally, building the tools to support each other through stress and reactive moments.

  • Move from just getting by to being mindful and compassionate in your relationship, creating a stronger connection, trust, and empathy.

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Couples Counseling Benefits

Starting a new path in your relationship can feel overwhelming, but it can also be an exhilarating journey toward freedom and deeper connection. Here are several steps couples can take to embark on this transformative experience:

  1. Open Communication: We will create a safe space where partners can express their feelings without judgment. Honest conversations pave the way for understanding and empathy.

  2. Identify Patterns: There will be reflection on recurring conflicts or behaviors. Understanding what triggers disagreements can help you break free from unproductive cycles.

  3. Set Shared Goals: Collaboratively, we establish what you want to achieve together as a couple. Whether it’s improving intimacy, enhancing trust, or simply spending more quality time, having common goals can unify your efforts.

  4. Practice Forgiveness: Letting go of past grievances is essential for moving forward. Acknowledge the hurt, but choose to forgive to release the burdens that hold you back.

  5. Embrace Change: Be willing to adapt and grow alongside one another. Change can be uncomfortable, but it is often necessary for personal and relational development.

  6. Celebrate Small Wins: Acknowledge and celebrate progress, no matter how small. Recognizing these achievements can boost motivation and reinforce positive behaviors in the relationship.

  7. Stay Committed: Commitment to the process is crucial. Consistency in practicing new skills and approaches can ignite lasting change and create a more fulfilling partnership.

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Tired of Slow Progress? Need more than the one-hour session per week model?

Try a Couples Therapy Intensive.

Discover the Intensity of Focused Therapy, also called Therapy Intensives or Couples Intensives. Intensives are a Premium Private Pay Service because they can ...

  • Accelerate the therapeutic process

  • Faster results in a shorter amount of time

  • More cost-effective than weekly therapy

  • Less time commitment (no weekly sessions)

  • No reports to insurance about a “diagnosis”

  • Available for anyone in the USA (online or in-person packages available. Consultation Call required to discuss details.

Couples Intensives

Intensives are for those who are interested in longer, deeper work which is individualized and can create a breakthrough in your relationship.

Accelerate Your Healing Journey with Focused Intensive Sessions.

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FAQs about Couples Counseling

  • Signs include:

    • Frequent arguments or emotional shutdowns

    • Feeling like you’re “walking on eggshells”

    • Resentment over responsibilities or emotional labor

    • Difficulty staying connected despite love and commitment

    If these sound familiar, counseling can help you break unhealthy patterns and strengthen your bond.

  • ADHD can create challenges with communication, emotional regulation, and shared responsibilities. Partners may feel frustrated by forgetfulness, impulsivity, or uneven household roles, while the person with ADHD may feel criticized or misunderstood. Counseling helps both partners develop strategies for clarity, empathy, and balance.

  • Absolutely. I provide secure telehealth sessions for couples located in Arizona, Iowa, and Oregon. Virtual therapy offers flexibility while maintaining a safe, confidential space for both partners.

  • Yes. I specialize in supporting couples where ADHD and anxiety intersect with attachment patterns and past trauma. Sessions focus on improving communication, reducing conflict cycles, and building tools for emotional safety and connection.

  • Unresolved trauma often shows up as trust issues, emotional reactivity, or fear of abandonment. In therapy, we work on identifying triggers, building self-regulation skills, and creating a relationship dynamic that feels supportive and secure.m description

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