About Cynthia Djengue, LCSW, LISW
Relational, attachment informed therapy for individuals and couples seeking clarity, steadiness, and repair.
About
You may be here because something in your inner world or your relationships feels chronically unsettled.
Perhaps you experience anxiety that shows up as overthinking, self doubt, anger, or shutting down. Perhaps you find yourself working hard to manage relationships, trying to be responsible, attuned, or “reasonable,” yet still feeling unseen, resentful, or alone. Many people I work with struggle not because they lack insight or effort, but because their nervous systems have learned to stay on high alert in order to feel safe or connected.
My work is focused on helping individuals and couples understand these patterns, soften self blame, and create change that is grounded rather than reactive.
How I Work
I practice therapy through an attachment informed, relational, and nervous system aware lens. This means we pay attention not only to thoughts and behaviors, but to emotional safety, regulation, and the deeper meanings that have shaped your responses.
Clients often come in feeling confused about how they “should” feel, torn between anger and guilt, longing and withdrawal, self protection and fear of abandonment. Rather than pushing for quick solutions or rigid boundaries, we work toward clarity, understanding what is happening, why it makes sense, and what genuinely supports repair and growth.
Therapy with me is collaborative, paced, and grounded. I value mindfulness, emotional honesty, and compassion, especially for those who appear strong or capable but carry significant internal pressure.
In our work together, we focus on:
Emotional regulation and nervous system awareness
Attachment patterns and relational safety
Clear communication based on your values
Compassionate accountability and repair
Couples and Relational Repair
Couples often arrive feeling stuck in cycles of frustration, withdrawal/shutdown, or emotional over-responsibility.
I work extensively with couples and relational systems experiencing stress, disconnection, or chronic imbalance. This often includes couples where one or both partners have ADHD, and where patterns of over functioning, resentment, or emotional fatigue have taken hold.
A central focus of my work is helping partners move out of parent child or manager dependent dynamics and back into adult to adult relating. This includes:
Reducing the burden of feeling responsible for another adult
Developing fair, realistic approaches to tasks, time, and shared responsibility
Strengthening communication without blame or emotional escalation
Rebuilding companionship, reciprocity, and joy
Relational repair is not limited to romantic partnerships. I also work with parent & adult child relationships and other meaningful bonds where attachment, boundaries, and emotional safety are central.
About Cynthia Djengue, LCSW, LISW
I am a licensed clinical social worker with over 30 years of experience in social work and psychotherapy. I earned my Master of Science in Social Work from the University of Wisconsin Madison, with an emphasis in severe and persistent mental illness and mental health policy. I am a relationship repair specialist and have served as an adjunct faculty member in behavioral health and social work.
My professional work is shaped by decades of social work practice, teaching, and mentoring, along with a deep respect for the complexity of human relationships. I bring both steadiness and nuance to therapy, holding space for accountability while remaining attentive to the vulnerability beneath defensive or anxious patterns.
Who This Work Is For (and often helps most)
This work may be a good fit if you:
Experience high anxiety, depression, or attachment based distress
Struggle with feelings of unworthiness, shame, or fear of abandonment
Alternate between pushing for connection and pulling away to protect yourself
Feel overwhelmed by relational responsibility or emotional labor
Want clarity rooted in values, not fear or self criticism